The Power of Love, Seeing the best in one another
What you offer to others, you experience within yourself.
What you see in others you strengthen in yourself.
When we do this we feel good inside.
If you offer others love and gratitude you will feel warm and blessed.
Your sense of self esteem does not come from how others view you but how you see other people.
If you see other people as missing, lacking and not good enough you inhibit change from occurring and also destroy your own sense of value. Feeling powerless you are primed to blame others for your discomfort.
Love sees the best in people.
When you give people credit for having good intentions you will have far more good days than bad and you will keep your self esteem high. You will also highlight for your children the best aspects of themselves and others. That is powerful.
1. Wish people well
2. When you notice a mistake, attribute a positive intent
3. Affirm to yourself, "What I offer to others, I give to myself."
The Skill of Attributing Positive Intent Turning Resistance into Cooperation
Your approach to your child's mistakes will shape how they approach mistakes the rest of their lives.
1. Blame or accuse your child by attributing negative motives to behavior and that his mistakes mean that he is bad or
2. Teach them mistakes are just that, mistakes.
This skill comes from the power of Love which reminds us to see the best in one another.
Aristotle's, "You become what you do."
To err is human, to forgive divine.
You will view your own mistakes more lovingly.
Negativity breeds resistance and optimism yields cooperation
1. Attribute positive intent to clerks, politicians, food servers and others
2. Cut off punitive self talk
3. Make a list of ways to show love to others
tending to make moral judgments or judgments based on personal opinions
disapproval expressed by pointing out faults or shortcomings
Distorted perception, stalled progress, and lack of mercy are only a few of the spiritual hazards of finding fault with others.
Faultfinding distorts our perception in a number of ways. First, we inaccurately see ourselves as superior. When we become preoccupied with the weaknesses of others, our attention is distracted from our own faults. We develop a kind of spiritual farsightedness, focusing our vision on faults of others, and our spiritual eyes may begin to play tricks on us as we see right through things that are much closer—our own faults.
“charity towards all men.” D&C 121:45
Matthew 7:3 [Matt. 7:3] describes this curious condition: “Why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?”
“Let thy bowels also be full of charity towards all men, and to the household of faith, and let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly; then shall thy confidence wax strong in the presence of God. …“The Holy Ghost shall be thy constant companion” (D&C 121:45–46).
Eldon Tanner on Judging
Eldon Tanner on Judging
The Apostle Paul warned of this tendency: “Thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest doest the same things” (Rom. 2:1; emphasis added).
“And now, my brethren, I have spoken unto you concerning pride; and those of you which have afflicted your neighbor, and persecuted him because ye were proud in your hearts, of the things which God hath given you, what say ye of it?
“Do ye not suppose that such things are abominable unto him who created all flesh? And the one being is as precious in his sight as the other. And all flesh is of the dust” (Jacob 2:20–21).